Friday, June 1, 2012

My Time

Last night my husband and I had a 'talk'.

As most of you know, he has started his training. Which means he's gone pretty much all day.
I stay home with Adelei. I clean house & cater to my daughters every need.
I love it.
But I still need some time to myself every once and a while. So when Aaron got home yesterday, I asked him if he would mind watching the baby for a little while so I could have some time to myself. He agreed.
It just so happened that it was time for her last nap of the day, so he should have no problem.
I put her down, grabbed my purse, & headed out the door.
I had some things on my mind, yes. 
I also needed fresh air, and I wanted to get a few things for the house without having to take the baby. So I multitasked.

After I had only been gone a little over an hour I heard my phone ping...I knew it was a text from Aaron, 'What ya doin?'
*sigh* Here we go...
I responded '@ Hobby Lobby' and within seconds 'coming home soon?'
I wanted to scream! Right then & there in the middle of the store. But I kept it together. I finished browsing, and checked out. When I left there, I went home.

After I put the baby to bed, we talked.
Apparently he thought that because I left when I said I needed 'me' time, that I was upset.
That was not the case. Have I been feeling a little morose lately? Yes. But isn't that to be expected when you move 1,000 miles away from anyone you know for the first time? After explaining this to him, he somehow came to the conclusion that I don't want to stay home with Adelei. Read--this is NOT the case!
But after being home for 7 days, unpacking, cleaning, & catering to everyone else [husband, baby, dog] I just wanted a little bit of time for just me.
I don't think that is too much to ask for. 

5 comments:

chambanachik said...

I think guys have a hard time getting it-especially when they aren't living it like we are- but I am totally the same way. Everyone needs a break sometimes!

Optimistic Liz said...

I get it! I stay home too and I don't have the urge to have it all the time but man I take advantage of naps. Sometimes it's enough for me to just shower without feeling like I need to listen to the baby monitor.

Smart Ass Sara said...

Guys most definitely don't get it. It's really hard to explain to someone that just because you aren't going to an actual job that you aren't busting your ass. But maybe something you can do is set up a set day of the week and time period that is you time. So that way it's on the calendar with everything else, and you do it. PLUS, this gives Aaron some one on one time with Adelei.

The Sullivans said...

Though I'm not a stay at home mom, being a working wife is tough while trying to handle the house and all that goes with it! It's a job in itself to keep groceries bought, meals made for Jerm, clothes washed, and still try and find time for me! I finally had to tell Jerm as long as I was working I needed help. Just the past two days alone, I've worked almost 30 hours! Most days I work between 8-12 hours and it's rough! I explained to Jerm that he has a few hours to himself before he goes to work every day and I need just a few hours a week too for myself! So, he was willing to handle the finances (which is a HUGE help to me!) and asks me everyday how can he help me. It's a start and I think he finally understood when I explained all that I have to do! And so when work doesn't keep me until midnight I try to give myself time for a hot bath and a good book at least once a week!!! We're emotional creatures and we try to handle everything on our own, but we need time to get quiet, relax and drop all of our anxiousness! Praying Aaron sees your need and understands your full time job from home!!! :) Praying the adjustment isn't too hard! Love you!!!!

The Sullivans said...

Though I'm not a stay at home mom, being a working wife is tough while trying to handle the house and all that goes with it! It's a job in itself to keep groceries bought, meals made for Jerm, clothes washed, and still try and find time for me! I finally had to tell Jerm as long as I was working I needed help. Just the past two days alone, I've worked almost 30 hours! Most days I work between 8-12 hours and it's rough! I explained to Jerm that he has a few hours to himself before he goes to work every day and I need just a few hours a week too for myself! So, he was willing to handle the finances (which is a HUGE help to me!) and asks me everyday how can he help me. It's a start and I think he finally understood when I explained all that I have to do! And so when work doesn't keep me until midnight I try to give myself time for a hot bath and a good book at least once a week!!! We're emotional creatures and we try to handle everything on our own, but we need time to get quiet, relax and drop all of our anxiousness! Praying Aaron sees your need and understands your full time job from home!!! :) Praying the adjustment isn't too hard! Love you!!!!